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smashing out the old drab hues
brighten with enlightened dues
refuse to be so broken used
standing in results i choose
there i am but there she went
she served a mission heaven sent
here i stand and pose with love
rich in heart with will to shove
shoving out that mass of pain
select outside what’s mundane
from the hatefulness refrained
i choose to be a soul regained
a clarity besets my thoughts
what shall i buy, not will be bought
the doubt dissolves as we forgot
remembering what strength has wrought
avail to me right now i claim
the riches of my children’s name
see the signs and live the times
sing the songs of hearts and minds
destiny is not resigned
for now our stars are realigned
and as we held hands all this while
my family’s souls only smile
smile on us, angels do
only in our tickled view
for as we feel and laugh in deed
integrity and passions lead
leading us to golden roads
lit and paved with seeds we sowed
lifting us with lighter loads
and gifting us as our will flowed
worship thankfully in hopes
while toiling to untie ropes
and now the picture becomes real
we manifested what we feel
- Nita Lee Marquez
IFBB Pro Fitness Athlete, Author/Speaker/Poet
Miss National Fitness, Fit Mom, Fitness Model
Embarking on a new song sent
Wondering what moments meant
Elated by a hopeful gent
Gentle like a power bent
Bend the mends that closed the shade
End the rendered pain’s charade
Gallantly we stand on faith
Bringing us to heaven’s gates…
Heaven’s calls do relegate
Beyond what heathens delegate
We take on knowledge to create
A manifested vision’s state
There we go and here we stand
Tempest was an old remand
Bow to a forceful, truthful light
I am that forceful in my might
Now I see what all that meant
No need for my heart to resent
For thereupon their need repents
For naught what my world represents
So now I walk a path in peace
So much joy to be released
Walking in prosperities
My soul to will a heart that’s pleased
Forego a blank tranquility
To live inside serenity
My dignity, my gentle strengths
Reflects my will’s tenacious lengths
- Nita Lee Marquez
IFBB Pro Fitness Athlete, Fitness Model, Fitness Personality, Author/Speaker/Fit Mom
To all of America’s Hottest Fit Moms: What a delight I find today in celebrating our culture’s fashion industry magazine Glamour for it’s PHENOMENAL layout of the beautiful Lizzie Miller, a 20-year-old healthy, beautiful, real and believe it or not, FIT woman. See all fit moms realize that fitness is a lifestyle, not a dress size, and Hot Fit Moms are Hot because they actually like themselves! The Fittest Moms in the world are the ones who work to stay active to produce for their family and set good examples, not necessarily working to fit into that size 6 dress for the high school reunion. Fitness is a set of choices that yields an energy produced by nothing else in this world. The fit mom energy is beautiful and hot because it is Vivacious and confident. The hot fit mom reads, and she reads to her kids, and she loves her family more than she loves the mirror, and yea, she’s pretty easy on the eyes too!
There is nothing in the world more beautiful and radiant and powerful than a woman who works out and stays active AND she’s a fit mom who cares for family first and above everything. As a fit mom, you have the physical capacity to keep up with your kids and live a long life that assures you will run around after those grand-babies with vigor yourself! Fit Moms are women with confidence, not just cardio endurance
There is a lot to be said for Glamour for being so authentic and for featuring this astonishing reality of what beauty stands for. I believe honestly that fitness in general is an industry that tends to push the envelope of vanity just as much as the fashion industry does. No doubt, you get what you sign up for, but being mothers who love fitness doesn’t mean we have to be consumed by what a panel of judges would think of us at all times. Sure, when I compete, I compete to win, so I want to hit that stage looking my best. That was for a competition, and I always felt like it would be lame to get that caught up in the illusion all year round. The reality is that the stages of competitions are meant for us to present the best illusion of our own best physique. You hold that perfection for about two hours though. The rest of the year, I wanted to be fit still, but I didn’t want to spend every ounce of my good energy struggling to fit into that mold that people put me into because of how I looked on stage. I wanted to live fit but I wanted to put my family first. After all, that was why I got into the sport of fitness to begin with.
It’s still important to work out even when we are not training for fitness competitions, but at the same time, the sacrifice of fitness does not have to be at my children’s expense. As well, th fitness lifestyle of today’s fit moms do not have to entail sacrificing time away from our family. Sure, it’s nice to make my time at the gym a time to pay attention to myself, but I can also spend my fitness-devoted time with my kiddos if I want to!
It’s important to us as mothers to keep our children integrated into the routine of our fitness lifestyle. They learn by what we do in their presence, not just what we say to teach them. Why not make some of our fitness time For instance, instead of cardio at the gym all the time, I would go to the track and the children would run around and play while I did my run. When their father and I were still married, we all went to the gym and the track together, and made family time out of my workouts when I was training for a competition.
My trainer would let the kids work out at his gym too, and we always had a blast with that. It’s great because the children are absolutely inundated with fitness lifestyle choices that our family has lived out over the years.
America's Hottest Fit Mom Fit Kids
Another great option is hiking. Fit Moms have Fit Kids, right? My kids and I love hiking almost every weekend. When we lived in Arizona, we hiked Squaw Peak, and here in California, it’s Runyon Canyon or Fryman Canyon. I love doing Fit Moms Phenomenal Fitness Boot Camps at Fryman. It’s no joke out there, it’s still a challenge in the way I train the fit moms, but at the same time, we can take the kids with us.
The point is that fitness is EMPOWERING! It does not have to be a habit formed for pressure of society’s view of what you should look like. I mean, just look at Lizzie Miller’s smile in the picture above. That glow, that laughter, THAT IS THE ESSENCE OF FITNESS. That’s what we are really striving for. Fitness is the delight of energy and loving yourself, and yes, that makes you a bad-ass in my opinion It’s just about loving your body! If you love your body, care for it in the most fitness-oriented ways, but if you love yourself, maintain balance. You are WORTH THE WORK!!
I would love to hear from women, whether you’re a fit mom or a not a mom at all, please comment and share your thoughts on this blog, on the Glamour photo shoot of the Lovely Lizzie Miller! Remember to sign up for your free newsletter!
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When single mothers have breakdown moments, especially all those who are striving to give healthy habits and heartfelt soul-growing examples to their children, tenacity is key. So when you feel down, I hope that you will join me in a community of spiritedness that encourages and empowers single mothers who are feeling overworked, overlooked, underappreciated, or often displaced. In fact, I hope that all women (and the men who care to understand and embrace us) will send out good vibes to one another through words and thoughts of encouragement and strength. A toast to the single mother!!! Since I don’t drink, I will toast to you with poetry! Remember you are worth the work. Take some time out go for a walk, do some lunges, read a book, or just sit and hug your family with every bit of energy you have left to do it with today/tonight. Be well, Be you, BE PHENOMENAL!!
THE FINAL TEST -Nita Lee Marquez
height of power
might of price
i wish i was
i wish they were
the pulse of faith
i can’t pay my bills, much less the rent
collectors call, the money’s spent
so call me lazy not selling out from nine to five
they can call me crazy as i struggle to strive
i do not concede to the statements they make
they shut me out hoping that i quake
i pray time is sure to recognize
the flickering behind my eyes
that fire sometimes feels drowned down
by tears that pour onto the ground
but in my heart i know i can
reach far passed their shrewd demand
they are hoping that i just might quit
remanding weakness cannot handle it
all i know when i go to sleep
is there’s a destiny i am meant to meet
they say i am a shameless woman of hate
they don’t know my life, so they can’t relate
they call me someone who should not be heard
and say my temperment is fiercely absurd
they refuse to see what i helped procure
but i do not care, cause i can self assure
there are no follies in this world
god made me a feisty little girl
there was a purpose for my path
even in my womanly wrath
i step unlightly but self-contained
explosively i still remained
they have not killed me, they gave me grit
to grow in strength through every hit
they kept me down to bring me up
god’s plan is never made corrupt
i smile with such delightful sighs
empowered now i continue to rise
in the time they spent to kill my dream
they never took away my steam
i need not ask for their regards
they answer god as they play the cards
these are words unspoken, but set in stone
i walk with god, i was never alone
i landed these battles as part of a plan
they are the championships on which i stand
and now i coast on a course of love
i love to own life and go above
yes, there are people who still antagonize
but now i pray for the flicker behind their eyes
i hope and know an ending blessed
life is just a bunch of tests
but either way, it never fails
god’s perfect plan always prevails!
“Take the punishment of defeat as an urge to Greater effort” In the words of one of my favorite motivators, Napoleon Hill, out of the book THINK & GROW RICH (see graphic below, order now!)
Books like Think & Grow Rich, Science of Getting Rich, and 7 Habits of Highly Effective People are all books that pick my soul & mind up when I feel defeated. They are more than money-oriented, despite their money-focused titles. These books are food for the soul. People who scrutinize their titles simply would gain so much if they could get past their own judgements and just take a peek into their pages of enrichment. Life comes to the mind of one who reads the words of Hill & Wattles. They were men wiser than their time… Great empowering professors of thought science.
As a mother, and also as an athlete & mother, I have had days where I just felt like I could not lift another toe! As moms, we all get drained like this, but we remain tenacious. We have to. We have to find a way to pull it together. We have to make sure that everyone eats, gets to school, gets opportunities, and we have to dig deep and find that inner strength to be everyone else’s cheerleaders when they need us. It is what we do as mothers, and what we must do is replenish our souls to maintain our ability to provide these support systems to everyone else.
These books have helped me replenish my energy and my mindset when I am feeling this way. I have found such books to be a source of empowerment, and even great scriptures like many found all throughout the bible really have given me strength. I especially like the book of Job and also Philippians are two of my favorites for empowering scriptures, and I used many mantras and scriptures to maintain a champion’s mindset when I trained for ten years, dedicated to becoming the National Champion in my sport, which I finally won in 2008. On days when I was going through my divorce, feeling lost and wandering toward something better, I often buried my head in books to work my way through the days so that I could keep smiling for my children’s sake. Divorce, single motherhood, and not giving up so I could stay in my sport were three big pills to swallow at once. Every woman who has ever struggled has felt comparable or worse stresses and challenges, and as Napoleon Hill says, we have to take the challenges in life and use them as fuel to push ourselves upward and onward to overcome & conquer challenges, while we champion ourselves. It’s never going to get easier, but we can get better at it as we move along to make ourselves more at ease. Moms, Phenomenal Women, We are worth the work!
Refuse to live life as simple survival
Magnificence awaits our arrival
Stand stoic among temptation’s demand
Life will beset what our choices command
There is no space for complacent malfunctions
Driving to nowhere in desolate junctions
Flesh thrown about in misdirection by lack
The failure to live as life giving back
Call on me and trace my steps
Look at all the times I wept
See inside these spirited eyes
Where determination would not compromise
You can list my heart in your aimed protection
Enlist to walk with me as we take all the lessons
I’ll hold onto your hand when we are feeling the pressures
Hold on tight with you till the pains become pleasures
There are no mountains I have not moved
No man’s soul which I cannot soothe
There is not a place that I could not go
No problems exist that I could not throw
The strength I bare is ever-abounding
Building a legacy so astounding
My simple integrity can make me great
Despite all the mistakes I make
There’s a possibility that I am worthy
A hope fulfilled that did not come early
A hopeful dream that is reoccurring
Such thoughts I have so reassuring
They say discipline is the highest freedom
A boundless spirit will build my kingdom
Arousal is not a feeling delighted
It’s a prowess I feel when truth is ignited
Never settling in unbearable pains
Commence to extinguish irreverent gains
Learning to laugh when I cry in the rain
I will for the fruits that will one day remain
So here I am stating my life’s declaration
I am the woman whose soul brings elation
Confronting you all with convicted creation
As mirrors for some will become devastation
There is nothing withheld within my stars
Fortunate visions consume my heart
There are no capacities left untapped
My soul is the soldier that could not be trapped
Come through the challenges blazing in fire
To take up the life that I’m meant to aspire
There are no impossible dreams to be dreamt
Songs play in my heart that are only God-sent
Extinguishing hell with the rain that I make
Doubt’s fear and confusion cannot relegate
Inevitably I exceed expectation
Destiny calls my creative sensation!
-Nita Lee Marquez, Authored 2008
I have always held firmly to the belief that everything in life has a purpose. Challenges as they occur in our lives certainly do not deviate from that truth. In the case of my weight challenges, there has become a parallel to my life’s flow.
I never felt good about myself growing up, and it was not easy getting fit. However, it is so clear to me now that there was a strong purpose in my having learned so much about my body and what has been necessary to become and stay physically fit. There is nothing in the world that can drive a person like purpose. Purpose is a word that has become the driving force of every choice I make, and the reality is that I never could have become this way had it not been for conquering my fitness challenges.
Because of my weight issues, I have learned tremendous amounts of coping which have helped me in all other areas of my life. I learned to accept the reality of not fitting in, realized the pain of it, cited wherein that pain I had control, and learned through persistence how to gain and assert that control over my weight.
Having conquered so much in the events of my weight issues, I was becoming more and more convicted within myself. Pushing out all the drudgery and just powering through these challenges, it was becoming more apparent to me that I was not meant to just understand this new-learned conviction. The point in learning is to share what we learn through our actions and conversations with others. How that was going to take place I did not know, but to me, getting fit was more than just a weight matter. It was about overall health— the mind, body and soul balance. Everything started from recognizing my strengths, as it will begin to form for you as well.
It is never just about getting thin, it’s about gaining control. That comes from acceptance of what hurts, accepting that it hurts badly, and finding where you can control the pain, learning how to control the compulsions, and then asserting that control. Once this process is complete, you will have conviction, and with conviction, there is a sense of purpose for one’s self. Therein, we can own our strengths, and that is where the big picture finally starts to become clear.
In Book 1, I have laid it all out there for you to understand my approach in hopes that I could support you learning your own self-development through fitness. You accepted the pain that fitness was not present in your life, whatever your case was. Upon the completion of the first two steps of the process of weight management (acceptance of what hurts and accepting that it hurts badly), you moved onto step 3, which was learning where you could control the pain, and thus, you looked toward health-filled mind/body/soul books and other forms of learning for help in your quest. Step 4 was your upon finding your sources for learning, you actually gained the knowledge and then you finally, in step 5, asserted that control. We go this process repeatedly with any situation, and I am so both hopeful & thankful to see that you will make/have made it through so many times and now you (will) have gained conviction from it all.
Today, You own Yourself. You own the mistakes, the pains, the learning, the hard work, and best of all, you own the rewards. So what’s next for you? Where will you re-apply some of those steps? Where will you parallel those experiences? Where and through what area of your life can you acknowledge and empower yourself with the lessons and work ethic you learned in getting fit? From where you were to where you are, you have had some basic strengths and talents, and you know you can do well with those somewhere. Once you have become fit, it’s time to make new goals. Keep yourself charged by re-igniting the fire of these processes that helped you succeed in this area of your life. Use those processes and their lessons to keep growing in love and respect for yourself. Empower yourself, and it will help you empower others. Your family will benefit, your work can benefit, and your soul will be the ultimate beneficiary, because you are now living with purpose as your driving force.
Where will you go from here? Have goals that are specific to working up your strengths, and I guarantee that as a result, no matter how happy you think you are, you are going to be happier. Let that happiness invigorate those around you! As misery loves company, your Company Loves Happiness! Happiness is infectious. That’s a great deal to be a part of. It’s ongoingly reciprocal and ever-expanding. Thus is the law of attraction. Put something out and you will find it reciprocated to you from vast and sometimes unpredictable sources, and it will be amplified as the cycle continues. In other words, you get out what you put in, and you will get more and more of it as you continue putting it out there. This law was in effect for me and I didn’t even realize it, but that is why I am writing this book. I learned that the lessons of my path to fitness were attracting more good toward greater goals just because I was working so hard. I knew that stopping just with weight maintenance would be stifling, so my goals, my visualizations of competing in shows remained vivid.
I went on from learning to get fit to hoping to compete at some point, and eventually, that was exactly what I did. With the disciplines that I accumulated in losing weight and balancing my health, there was no reason that I could not get on that stage. I didn’t feel like I would necessarily kill the competition, but I knew that I could do the show. Despite the nerve-wrecking effects of being subjected to the scrutinies of a panel of judges and an audience of hundreds of people, there was a definite reward on the other side of that. There was a goal there though, just like there had once been with my weight, and for me, doing a contest was going to balance the healthy trinity: mind, body, and spirit. Absolutely everything inside me was telling me that my spirit would benefit tremendously if I just got on that stage. Remember when I said in Book 1 of this series, that you have to learn to speak your body’s language? Well, the same goes for your spirit, if you don’t learn to speak with it, how can it communicate to you what will help you flourish? Whatever your beliefs are, if you speak you communicate, when you listen, you learn.
Goal Setting is a spiritual and mental thing. Leading up to the goal is spiritual, and powering through it is both mental and spiritual. The goal of being fit took the spiritual sense to feel the misery of my lack of health, and the expedience required to reach that goal was a combination of holding onto the faith that I could get fit while I mentally acclimated myself with the knowledge and tools of getting fit. I had no interest in going small. If you are going to do something good for yourself, there is no sense in doing it half-assed. I knew that going balls-to-the-wall was going to be the only way to live this out, and so I got fit by learning and applying and maintaining. Once I got on auto-pilot with the weight stuff and I decided to compete, the vigorous attitude has spanned beyond getting fit into the area of my competitive career.
The day I decided to compete in a show, I was completely unfamiliar with the schedule of events in the competitive world of bodybuilding and fitness. Of course, finding a show was the first step. I looked around to find out about what shows were coming up. You can find out about shows in your area by checking the internet, looking for posters at your gym, as well as simply asking people around who you know to be a part of that world. Some of my favorite sites to learn show schedules are npcnewsonline.com and bodybuilding.com.
Once I had decided which sport, for me it was Fitness, I wanted to compete in, and then decided on a show, it was a matter of getting the right team. I was pretty much my team at that point, and I knew that there would be a lot of expense. I sized up the expenses: suits, shoes, grooming, tanning, etc. That being the case, I knew that I would need to work and find a sponsor. How does one find a sponsor?
The best thing you can do is type your expense list up on a spreadsheet, and then you can decide who to go to for sponsorship. You can ask friends who own businesses, which is what I did,or you can go to fresh sponsors. It’s very challenging to find new companies to sponsor your cause, so that’s why it is very important to look polished in your approach. They need to hear and see, if possible, why they should give you money. If you are thinking of looking for sponsorship, get a great package together, and offer them incentives to sponsor you. Can you be a poster child for their products? Can you be a model for them once or twice monthly at some kind of product booth? Is it possible that you have already accumulated some publicity that would show them that you are notable? The point is you want to find every reason for them to work with you and you want to show it, share it, sell it, and let them take advantage of whatever it is that is special about you in order to bring their products some sales. There has to be a trade-off. What I did was get a spreadsheet of my expenses, a letter sharing with them how they could recoup their monies by writing their sponsorship off as an advertising expense, and any newspaper clippings or news appearances I had made were listed for them to see for themselves. Some people said yes, and some said no, but I got through to my first show nonetheless. I had one child at the time, and a husband, but we did not have much money, so I sought out sponsorship dollars. I went to places that had to do with my industry and restaurants that I favored. After telling them what I was doing, I shared my package with them, asking that they cover one or more expenses on the the list, and eventually, I got them all covered. When you want something badly enough and you never give up until you get it, oddly enough, you get it. I was never pushy or psycho, but I was definitely persistent. That was absolutely necessary. Like all things, it never got any easier, but I just got better at it as I went along. There was never a doubt in my mind that I was going to get what I needed to, but there were always obstacles.
I was fortunate that the juice bar at my gym was run by a gentleman that I could approach about sponsorship. The Power Station Juice Bar was run by Tim DuPriest, who was also a photographer. He was starting a photography business, and I was starting my competitive career. I was really happy that he was so helpful, but it never would have come from him without my continued effort. Sometimes, people just see your heart, and even if it’s a crunch for them, they will try to help you because people like supporting each other. Where there is a dream, there must be a person with heart, and the people who have a heart for others will show up to assist, even in the smallest ways. We agreed that I would model for him for free in trade of him being able to write off advertising expenses. There is a lot to be said for intention. Someone once said though, “No one ever built a reputation on what they were going to do.” So, even if I felt like a dork, I just went for it, because, as i said, it doesn’t get any easier, you just get better as you go. My sponsorships were available through the law of attraction, but the law of attraction only works after you have put forth the efforts necessary to communicate your intentions. Looking even deeper into it, there is nothing that can happen if you don’t persist until it manifests. Another one of my favorite phrases: “Everyone gets what they want in this world, when they don’t give up until they get it.” Pretty elementary stuff, but no one seems to realize that this is the stuff I lived by (and obviously still do) when I was seeing a fit woman instead of a fat girl when I looked into the mirror. Remember, acknowledge it hurts, acknowledge the pain, acknowledge you can manage it, figure out how to manage it, and then manage it. I say the same thing a million different ways, but the process remains the same. It will also always remain that YOU ARE WORTH THE WORK!